“Personal power” is the ability to obtain desired results through your own beliefs, attitudes, and actions.
“Acting with integrity” is when the actions taken match your values, beliefs, and attitudes.
When we act with integrity our spirit, mind and body are working together to manifest our desire.
The motivation for operating in integrity is to maximize our personal power to fully realize our desired outcomes.
Perhaps you’ll ask the question, “What if my intent or desire or values include harming others?” When our desire is in alignment with our higher-selves and based on love, understanding, compassion and forgiveness we never “need” anyone else to suffer to live a joyful fulfilling life. So the harming of others is not a necessary component to live a self realized life and since we can shift into a self-realized mode in any moment it is not a short cut either.
The very idea that we operate in a zero-sum system where abuse rewards us better than kindness is antithetical to operating from a self-realized existence. It asserts that through the harming of others I am made stronger, happier, or more loving. Which seems obviously false.
I am not here to judge those who use power of this nature to “get what they want.” I personally find it an unsatisfying prospect and to the small degree I have exhibited this kind of behavior in hindsight I have regretted it.
In the opposite direction when operating from understanding, compassion, and love my actions create opportunities for others to join in the fun. Invitations to participate and combine our personal power towards a common good and common outcome. Co-creating is a very powerful form of manifestation.
When my actions are in opposition to my values or “I’m out of integrity” I am communicating to myself and those around me that I am not happy or satisfied. When my justification for operating outside of integrity is peace keeping, conflict avoidance, and intended to reduce or mitigate potential negative reactions of others then I may feel safer for doing so.
Even in this case where I’m willfully operating outside of integrity, I am working under the presumption that my desires are not important. My personal power is directed towards actions that are diminishing my influence. Taking this a step further I may try to convince others to do as I need through manipulation, gossip, shame, guilt etc. This generally results in a self-deprecation circle which over time reduces my self-esteem.
Since behavior is how I communicate to those around me and to the universe what I truly want my true desires get overridden by inconsistency in my actions. Since my actions aren’t backed up by my desire I will only go along a given behavioral path until the pain is reduced, removed, or goes away of its own accord. I will stop that line of action as soon as it does thus before I have realized the full potential from my behavior, I will change my direction.
Is there a time when you are doing something because you think you “should” and as soon as the situation changes you stop?
Is there a time when you are clearly afraid and so do just enough to clear a hurdle or remove the source of your fear?
These off again on-again decisions diminish your Personal Power and you can tell because you are out of integrity when doing them.